I’ve been in counseling three times at three different transitions in my life and each time I went to counseling I faced the same questions that nearly everyone does; do I really need this? Does going to counseling mean I am deeply pathetic? What’s so wrong with me that I can’t handle this on my own? Am I going to become one of those people with a therapist? How am I going to pay for this? I even asked all of this after I became a counselor myself!
There are a lot of valid reasons to pursue counseling. Experiencing depression, grief, and general life dissatisfaction, certainly. Anxiety is a very treatable condition that many suffer with acutely for years and can be greatly helped by work with professional. For many, marriage, partner, or parenting problems bring them into counseling and for others, hitting major life transitions is the turning point. For some, the pull towards counseling comes more subtly. There is a longing for more, an empty feeling or perhaps a sense of being stuck that draws them. It can be experienced as a spiritual disquiet or a period of questioning.
For me, listening carefully to myself helped me overcome the obstacles and actually go to counseling. Each of my counselors, even the one that didn’t work for me, helped me grow in my vision of what I want to see happen for my clients in the process. The word that keeps me grounded in the work is transformation; spiritual, internal, and relational transformation. To be able to elicit this in others, I need to be on the journey of transformation myself. I want to be aware of this and make sure I am offering the best of myself to the process; my training, my personality, and my temperament. My commitment is giving my all towards the transformation that you seek.