Every other Tuesday night, a group of 8-12 people gather at our house. We start with hanging out, then we read some prayers, then we do our LSD.
Before you jump to any conclusions, LSD is the acronym we’ve chosen that stands for LIFE SITUATION for DISCERNMENT. Each time we meet, one person shares a situation in their lives about which they want the group’s discernment. They share briefly about the situation, then we study a passage of the Bible, then we come back to the person’s LSD and ask how the passage we just studied might connect. We listen more, pray, ask questions, and try to discern what God might be doing. Sometimes the process leads to a decision, sometimes to tears, and other times to some shifts in how to conceive of the situation. Focusing on one person’s LSD helps us have a pretty deep process around one person about what is most important for them.
My observation is that doing this kind of thing is fairly unusual. I think it is because we’ve lost the art of interdependence. We’re expected to figure out our lives either on our own, possibly with our immediate family, or with paid professionals.
I’ve been on both sides of the LSD; presenting my own situation and also listening to others’. It is a vulnerable thing to bring a tender and important part of my life to a group of people like this. But the pay-off is that I am not alone. My family is not an independent entity. We belong to other people and other people belong to us. It is our attempt to live life in a connected community.
Where did we lose the art of interdependence? Most of us played on sports teams, did ropes courses, or a trust walk or two, so what happened? When did being an adult become an exercise in doing everything alone? I think we’ve been sold a bill of goods. We’ve been convinced that if we’ve arrived that we have within ourselves all the perspective that we need, when actually, who can claim that? With humility about this, perhaps we can begin to carve out places for LSD’s and build a growing culture of interdependence. And maybe, just maybe, that is a more genuine expression of true adulthood.
What are your attempts at interdependence in your life? What are the blocks?